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　　The object is blocked and can't be seen. Does it still exist? You will definitely say, it's still there, but you haven't seen it, and it won't disappear just because you can't see it.

　　But the baby doesn't think so, do you believe it? Look at these two babies playing hide-and-seek games:

　　They cover themselves up and can't see others, so they think that others can't see ta either.

　　In the world of babies, as long as they can't see it, they think it doesn't exist. For example, when the mother goes to work, the baby will cry very sadly after seeing her mother go out. ta doesn't know that her mother will go home, and she won't know that her mother has gone to work until she is about two years old, and she will definitely come back.

　　In the first few years after the baby was born, he has been studying and conducting such an experiment, that is, things will not disappear because they are invisible.

　　The term "object permanence" put forward by Piaget, a famous Swiss developmental psychologist, refers to the fact that an object is not in our perceptual range and still believes that it exists objectively.

　　The game of hide-and-seek in infancy can make the baby gradually realize that the people and things that have not been seen for a while have not disappeared, but still exist, and thus begin to master the concept of "object permanence".

　　03 months

　　Play audio-visual games with your baby to promote the integration of vision, hearing and audio-visual perception. Please click:

　　Did you give the baby audio-visual training?

　　35 months

　　Method 1:

　　Facing the baby, let the baby lie down or lean on the quilt, shout the baby's name, attract the baby to look at you, cover your face with your hands, say "meow-meow-"and show your face.

　　Method 2:

　　Gently put a clean handkerchief on the baby's face. When you start playing, you can say "Meow-meow-"with your mouth, help the baby take the handkerchief away, and after many exercises, guide the baby to learn to take the handkerchief by himself.

　　58 months

　　The baby is held by another person in the same direction, or the baby sits firmly, and the mother/father faces the baby, covering his face with a handkerchief or paper without patterns. First, hide behind the handkerchief/paper and call the baby's birth name, then show his face from one side and say "meow-"at the same time. After repeating it several times, observe the baby's eye reaction, and the baby will show expectant eyes and smile or laugh happily when you show your face.

　　Father/mother can flexibly create their own gameplay according to the child's personality and the scene at that time.

　　912 months

　　Method 1:

　　Under the baby's gaze, cover the toys that the baby is interested in with a handkerchief and guide the baby to find them. If you hide, remember to show some flaws, such as deliberately showing a corner of the toy and guiding the baby to take it out completely.

　　Method 2:

　　Hide the baby's familiar sounding toys, remember not to turn off the sound, and let the baby follow the sound to find it.

　　Method 3:

　　After the baby can crawl, you can hide the baby in a safe place. Mom/Dad intentionally said, where is the baby? Then find the baby and show a happy expression. Or father/mother hides and calls the baby to find it.

　　After one year old

　　After one year old, gradually reduce the demonstration and guidance, just use language to prompt or let the baby be creative, and the father/mother will play with the baby as a cooperator.

　　Hide-and-seek game looks very simple, but it can promote the development of baby's vision, hearing, language, movement, attention, memory and perception. When playing with baby, you must remember that the expression is rich and exaggerated, and the language and body movements are expressed at the same time.

　　With the knowledge of evolution and psychology, this is a repeated attempt to awaken the consciousness, recognize the self and the relationship between the self and others.

　　Small basin friends repeat this process of searching and finding again and again, and experience the existence of self, the interaction between others and self, and the difference between self and others.

　　Some people may think, do you still need to verify the existence of yourself?

　　Of course, human consciousness is a very magical existence. After children come to this world, it is very important for them to know themselves and the world, besides the reproduction of innate genes, learning and exercise the day after tomorrow.

　　Therefore, everyone should spend more time with children when they are young, even a simple game like hide-and-seek will have a very beneficial impact on the self-awareness and parent-child relationship of small basin friends.

　　Hello, first of all, we adults all know that the object can't be seen after it is blocked. This object still exists, but it won't disappear because it can't be seen.

　　The book Naked Ape, a popular anthropological work, explains the behavior that children are keen on "hide and seek". The book thinks that "hide-and-seek" is a strong stimulus based on safety. This kind of behavior must happen between people familiar to children, whether they are family members or playmates of the same age. This kind of behavior is a behavior that appears during the development of children's demand for protection and safety, and it is irritating to some extent.

　　When a mother or other acquaintance covers her face to scare the baby, at first she thinks it is dangerous and is about to cry, then she finds that this person is familiar and turns into a smile, and the transition from crying to smiling turns into laughter. The behavior of children laughing is telling her that I know this action is dangerous, but it is not true. Such behavior helps children to explore themselves and their surroundings.

　　When the child is older, he likes to hide by himself, but the way they hide is a bit naive to us. Hiding a small head is equivalent to hiding well. In fact, this is because preschool children are still in the absolute "self-centered" stage, have not been "decentralized", will not have the ability to change their perspectives, and can not think from the perspective of others.

　　These are reflected in such situations as fighting for toys, crying when you are not satisfied, and always talking and not listening. The same is true in the case of "hide-and-seek", because they only consider the problem from their own point of view, thinking that they can't see it, and the people they are looking for can't see it.

　　Hide and seek, for the baby, is a fun game, of course, I will like it.

　　When Doudou was 2 months old, her mother put her hand on her face, and then quickly took it away. After repeated several times, Doudou would feel very funny and laugh. When Doudou was 6 months old, his mother covered her face with a towel and immediately took it away. If she repeated it, he would laugh once. Games like this are actually a primary version of hide-and-seek games. In this period, hide-and-seek is not a real hide-and-seek game because the baby's participation is not very high. At this time, all external objects will not form an appearance in the baby's head. Just like a mirror, the object disappears and the specific image will disappear.

　　After Doudou was over 1 year old, he would crawl and walk. His mother would really hide behind the object and let Doudou look for it. His mother leaned out from different angles, and he would be very happy to find his mother. Until the age of 3, many children especially like to play hide-and-seek games. In the game of hide-and-seek, we can observe the law of the baby's growth, and there will be a concept, that is, the concept of eternal object. During this period, the baby begins to know that the external object will not disappear because it disappears from the field of vision. Even if you can't see it, it exists. He will know that the mother will always exist and the baby will always exist, and it will not disappear because of disappearance. And this object will slowly internalize into his heart.

　　It is very important for the baby that how the mother plays games with the baby and whether she can play games with the baby. Games can let us explore unknown areas, and how to play games is a test for the mother. Here are several misunderstandings that mothers are prone to fall into when accompanying their babies to play games.

　　1. Some mothers don't think games are very important for their children's growth, but just think games are a pastime. Games are a means for babies to learn skills and psychological development, and they are almost the only means. The 13-year-old baby basically learns all the skills in games, and even every stage of the baby's psychological development is identified through games. Doudou's mother is better at summing up and observing in games with her baby and mastering the performance of Doudou at each stage.

　　2. When the baby is playing games, the mother will always follow the baby and tell the baby that this can't be played, that is dirty and the like. For example, if the baby takes a dirty mud, the mother will say, "It's so dirty, throw it away quickly!" " For the baby, he doesn't know whether a thing is good or bad. The mother's behavior is to let the baby identify the good or bad too early, which is not a good phenomenon in the baby's growth. Therefore, every mother needs to self-examine, whether she looks at her baby playing games with her own judgment and our own preferences.

　　3. For which game to play, some mothers think that the time cost is high, so they decide which game to play for their baby. In the process of exploration, the mother's intervention, the baby has no power to resist, and the mother will choose instead of the baby, and he will have a strong sense of loss. For him, playing games is like exploring. Whenever he wants to explore new things, he is interrupted by his mother. He may feel that exploration is not a good thing and give up exploration.

　　The mothers in the above three situations have one thing in common, that is, they are all controlling mothers. They arrange everything for the baby according to their own wishes, and they will feel that the baby is better to take care of, and don't give themselves too much trouble. The way such mothers take care of their children is more out of a responsibility and obligation than an expression of love. The meaning behind them is that I want to be a good mother, and I need the cooperation of my baby. My baby is very obedient, and I will be a good mother if I grow up according to my wishes. She cares more about what others say about him than how the baby feels inside.

　　This kind of mothers don't respect the concept of baby. They just need the baby to be obedient. Slowly, the baby just needs to learn what the mother asks, and the baby will become more and more obedient and obedient. They can't enjoy the happy feeling of playing games with their babies, it's hard to feel the flow of emotions, and they can get little happiness from each other. They don't really understand the importance of their babies' games in their growth.

　　You can see how important it is to be a learning mother and a mother who grows up with her baby.